In this course you'll learn that as someone who provides any type of service to another you must understand the concept of containment. You must be able establish and maintain a dynamic that keeps your clients, customers, and audience feeling safe, committed and well-led. This will not only bring you more success, abundance and clarity, but it will leave you feeling less drained. 

Our roles in the birth setting are to hold space, offer reassurance, create safety and provide opportunities for our clients to feel empowered. In order to provide these key elements we have to first master our capacity to self-regulate. In order to hold space for others, have you mastered holding space for yourself? In this course there is also an opportunity to develop a level of self awareness that will assist you in cleaning up the energetics of your business, making space for abundance, and clarifying why you may be feeling overwhelmed or drained by clients. The ultimate level up as a space holder. 

As a man, father and husband our capacity to provide safety for those around us is the bedrock of our purpose. This provision is what offers balance to our romantic, parenting and professional relationships. There are many practical ways safety is offered, however it is all null and void if a man cannot self-regulate and create safety within his own body first. In this course you will learn how to hold huge sensations in your system without losing touch, contracting or "checking out". This is an opportunity to step more fiercely into your essential role as a man and leader in society. 

Relationships are a mirror. What triggers us in the other is very often what is alive but subconscious within our own system.

Relationships can show us where we have unmet needs from our seemingly distant childhoods. 

If these triggers and unmet needs remain unconscious we will place pressure on our partners and friends to provide the connection that was lacking from our caregivers. This approach never allows us to access clean, safe and profound intimacy with anyone.

Through this mini-course, you will begin to explore those unconscious patterns by noticing how your body responds to the people and circumstances around you.

When you can provide  regulation, safety and connection for yourself, then relationships become incredibly more profound, pleasurable, easy and stable. 

At some point in our lives we have all experienced a habit that wasn't productive or healthy. We may have tried many "tricks" to reverse, undo, or replace the habit we were trying to kick. The habit may have changed but more often than not, it didn't "go away".

We're here to tell you that it's because the unmet need under that habit was not actually addressed. We take the example of the baby and the pacifier. A newborn has a few basic needs: hunger, affection/connection from mom, feeling safe, clean and comfortable, getting rest.

When these things aren't addressed infants will communicate their need for co-regulation by crying. Typically a parent cannot handle the crying- their own system becomes dysregulated by the sound, or the pressure. The parent will often give them a pacifier or put them in a rocking chair, or place a device in their face.

When the baby has learned that their needs will not be met, and their best alternative is to auto-regulate (numb) with a device, eventually this can evolve into a self destructive substance or compulsion that purports to give them comfort & connection: drugs, overeating, tv, scrolling. The list goes on.

Your goal, as the adult, is to develop the skill of finding safety and regulation in your own body, so that you can attend to those around you who need healthy co-regulation and a grounded presence. This will foster trust in your leadership. And for parents, this will result in secure attachment with your children, and teach them how to regulate their own nervous systems as they develop.

In this mini-course you have a chance to pin-point the unmet need deep within, find healthy ways to meet it, and slowly transform your co-dependency into self-dependency, freeing you from addictions, and allowing you to become the regulated, grounded leader for those who depend on you.

Us little girls are often not shown how to identify our needs, let alone shown how to express them with assurance we won't lose approval.

We often feel shame when asking for what we want.  "I don't want to inconvenience them" or "hurt their feelings", so I'll just betray what myself for their comfort... or to "keep the peace."

This can lead to a lifetime of resentment, emptiness, and an endless search for these needs to be met by others.

This co-dependent and embittered path can lead to a low-grade state of grief, failed relationships and ultimately the self-sabotage of ones own pregnancy and birth.

Women will elect birth teams or birth places that don't match her, she will consent to procedures and the suggestions of others that are not best for her. This often leads to "birth trauma" and by default a disconnected, sad and shame filled mothering journey. 

In this mini course as a woman you will have the chance to reclaim your needs through finding safety in your own body. You'll see why certain dynamics drain you, you'll be able to sharpen your intuition (not your vigilance) and ultimately take back the power that you always had. Not to mention, you'll set yourself up to be a much more connected, present and easeful mother.